the human nature is shaped in such that we resist to changes?
when someone decides not to follow the perceived “normal” path, everyone else freaks out and persuades the one to “get back on track”.
of course, in this world/society, there’s no right or wrong answers. What matters is your take on it and how much you get out of your own decision.
We are all brought up in the environment where the so-called “correct path” is where we should all ace in our studies, get into good schools, achieved distinctions in ‘O’s and ‘A’s, enrol into the University, graduate and get a good job. Follow on, receive occasional promotions, meet the right one, get married, use CPF to buy HBD, have kids, work till 60 yrs old, retire and live on pension.
Isn’t life boring?
As you know, i’ve been thinking quite alot recently. And i’ve been talking to many people. I just spoke to my sis and my bro about my current situation. It was a surprise when they said this to me, “No one in the family is forcing you to get a degree. We are all cool if you don’t want to.”
Reflecting on the start on my poly life, i aimed to get a place in University. I worked hard for 3 years and now, i’m in. All of a sudden, i’m feeling lost. Because, there’s no motivation left in me. I am clueless with what i’m gonna do when i graduate with a degree. I feel silly now. I only thought of a step ahead back in secondary. I failed to plan 2 steps ahead.
I’m struggling now in determing the meaning of my University education. I believe in nothing much that it can give except to train me in my thinking. At the same time, cultivates my personality. However, on second thoughts, will a local Uni education be able to provide that? Looking at the system, looking at the professors, looking at the classmates.
Maybe i’m rushing into things, maybe i’m running away from the toughness. Maybe i’m naive.
Which ever it is, here’s something inspiring by Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple.
“you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”
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it’s a luxury to follow what the social norms have set, simply because, you don’t have to think so much and build the courage to make a difference.
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by the way, like i said, it didnt happened the previous times, it did not happen this time round either. I’m feeling so irritated by the system.
I was with him flipping through his collections of books, magazines and works. Listening to his suggestions on what i can do for my french culture presentation. He showed me some of his works. I can’t help but said this to him, “Why are you still in Singapore.”
I really think that Singapore is destroying him. He needs somewhere that gives him more space.
